Habits & Mindset12/10/2019
What common fears say about your personality
Our deepest fears are closely related to our subconscious, and can reveal a lot about our true nature.
This image represents some of the most common fears. Before you continue reading this article, we suggest you to visualize your fears and become aware of their intensity.
How to visualize your fears?
You can either print the picture or draw the different fears on a paper. Fill the jar with a pen/pencil depending on the intensity of your fear (some jars may be empty, others filled and others filled halfway).
If you are more technology-oriented, you can save the picture on your mobile phone and edit the picture. Use a digital pen to fill your jars.
Once you've visualized your fears, you can read what psychology says about some of them:
Fear of closed spaces (claustrophobia)
You are an introverted and intellectual person, particularly good in what you do. Claustrophobia is described as the fear of not being able to escape, not finding a way out. The same in all situations of life. You may also be afraid to build a relationship because you are independent and afraid to sacrifice your freedom. You are afraid and need to feel safe at all times.
Fear of heights (acrophobia)
You are a complex person and sometimes it’s hard for you to express yourself. You have trouble making decisions and you often feel divided between two parties during an argument. The fear of heights is a universal and human fear.
Fear of spiders
Your fear of spiders is not really alarming. Arachnophobia is a very common fear: a British study has shown that 32% of women and 18% of men share the same fear as you.
Why are you afraid of spiders? Unconsciously, many people perceive these small animals as disgusting and dirty, and spiders are also closely linked to the idea of danger because some species are poisonous (the same for the fear of insects). The fear of spiders is also related to the disgust that they provoke in us. It may also be related to the fear of being mediocre, of being a "common" person.
Fear of the dark
Darkness does not scare you in itself: it is rather the fear of not seeing what is in front of you. If you are afraid of the dark, it is mostly because you are afraid of what you don’t know, what you can’t understand or understand. You probably also fear the future, the death as well as any unpredictable situation that could go wrong.
In addition to a certain fear of the unknown, the fear of the dark can also be the result of an overactive imagination! This is why this fear is so common in children, but some adults manage to preserve this imagination. Your brain creates unlikely scenarios once the lights go out. In this case, the only way to overcome this fear would be to master your own imagination.
Fear of public speaking (glossophobia)
Although you may have learned to hide your own nature in front of people, you are introverted from the depths of your being. You like spending time on your own. You prefer to have some friends with strong and sincere relationships, instead of accumulating many superficial relationships.
You don't like to be the center of attention, you consider yourself as a simple, honest and humble person. However, you can work on your shyness to open yourself up to the world.
Fear of clowns
You hate lies and absurd things. You are proud to be honest, sincere and you always tell the truth. As a result, you want others to be honest and direct with you too.
This fear can be explained on a psychological level and is much more common than you think. In fact, almost 1 in 10 adults is afraid of clowns! The explanation: since the beginning of time, our ability to interpret facial expressions has been essential for our survival. The clown's expression and true intentions are hidden behind his makeup which can cause suspicion and fear.
Fear of snakes
You value the people around you and the relationships you have with them. Your fear of snakes is actually the fear of people you care about being in danger. According to the theory, humans, like other primates, are supposed to be afraid of creatures that may threaten their lives. It is like an instinct. Your fear of snakes is simply an expression of your brain that instinctively seeks to protect you and your loved ones from danger.
Fear of losing a loved one
Everyone is afraid of losing a loved one. But this fear becomes a real problem when it is so deep, that you are obsessed with the idea that something could happen to your loved ones, and you can’t never be at peace with yourself. It is a toxic dependence.
According to several psychologists, the origins of this deep fear seem to be rooted in the early stages of fetal or natal life, when the fetus has endangered the life of the mother (or both) or when the mother's pregnancy has been disturbed .
Fear of blood
The fear of blood and fainting at the sight of blood may be a primitive reflex buried deep in our brain. In fact, it probably helped our distant ancestors survive pretty gruesome events. It is the unconscious response of your body trying to protect you by letting you know that something is wrong when you are seeing blood.
Fear of water
People who are afraid of water especially fear drowning. The real problem is that they are afraid of immensity. Water covers more than two thirds of the Earth's surface. The fear of losing yourself leaves you defenceless from the moment your feet no longer touch the ground. We are surrounded by an ocean of possibilities and uncertainties.
Fear of death
You love to surround yourself with the people you love and you don't like being alone. You often prioritize others before yourself and you are very generous. Although it is very good to satisfy your loved ones, don’t forget to fulfill your needs too.
In many cases, the fear of death can result in the fear of suffering, of having pain.
Fear of getting old
We all have a little fear of getting old. You are afraid of waking up one morning and realizing that you have no more time to fulfill your dreams, to do what you want. You are a person full of ambition, passion and dreams. You have an impulsive character because you are afraid of running out of time. You have to learn to live in the present.
Fear of aggressors
You have little confidence in yourself. It also can result in the fear of suffering, the fear of losing control and not being able to get out of a situation. This fear can become a social phobia, when you are afraid of any unknown person.
Fear of people (social phobia)
You are a shy and very independent person. You avoid meeting new people. In this category, we speak rather of fear of being judged by others. You are afraid to be humiliated, judged, and rejected. Behind, a feeling of devaluation is often hidden. This fear can result in anxiety and nervousness until the inability to communicate.
Fear of germs
You like things to be clean and tidy and you hate when your life is a mess. You are a perfectionist and even a little maniacal. If things don’t go as you expected, stress and anxiety can arise.
According to an article in Psychology Today, the fear of bacterial contamination can be induced by our disgust sensitivity. The more sensitive you are to disgust, the greater will be your fear of microbes.
Fear to be alone
You are an open, sociable and outgoing person. You like being the center of attention and you love being surrounded by your friends. In love and friendship, being alone terrifies you (same for the fear of abandonment).
But why so much fear of loneliness? According to several sociologists, in Western culture, it is commonly believed that being in a relationship is essential for our well-being. People who are alone are often stigmatized because we mistakenly associate loneliness with the concept of failure, or with a personality problem.
Many times, the fear of being alone comes from a lack of self-confidence, despite being sociable and outgoing. Take time to focus on yourself.
Fear of the unknown
You like having control over the situation and you hate unforeseen events. The fear of the unknown is a basic human reflex to prevent people from acting impulsively and dangerously.
Fear of flying
Many times, people who fear the plane hardly get out of their routine. They are used to trust what they already know. They believe in science and human inventions but they always imagine the worst, because they also know that humans are not perfect and can make mistakes.
The fear of flying can also hide other fears: the fear of not being able to control anything, the fear of emptiness or, simply, the fear of airplane crash (in another word: the fear of dying).
Fear of failure
You are a sensitive person and you are constantly looking for love (your way of feeling safe). This fear was born with the current society in which we stigmatize failure (we have to pass our exams). But what are you really afraid of? Failure, in itself, is not so scary. In reality, the fear of failure is the fear of not being loved. You are convinced that if you make a mistake, you will disappoint and people will no longer love you.
Fear of crowds (agoraphobia)
Don’t confuse this fear with claustrophobia. The fear of crowds is the fear of being trapped, not by the walls, but by other humans. You are a relatively sociable person but you prefer to keep your distance during a conflict and sometimes you need moments of solitude.
The fear of crowds is defined by an intense fear of the populated spaces in which escaping would be difficult. It is rather a natural evolutionary reflex, which forces us to avoid spaces in which a predator could easily catch us. At home, this can result in the need to maintain a physical and emotional space between you and others.
Therapy can help you discover whether your fear is caused by an underlying mental health issue or allow you to address and work through what is causing you to feel afraid.
Have you been able to visualize your fears? Have you learned something about yourself?